Being alone is an interpretation of your personality based on circumstances. In this case: there is nobody around to 'do' something, and the result of this judgement is: not pleasant, simply because somewhere within you 'know' that oneness is your desired experience and so far you believed you had to achieve this in ways your personality comes up with. Okay, throughout the years your personality is likely to have made you believe this can
have some advantages too, like the absence of people nagging, you can do whatever you want or likewise, however, this cannot take away that the basis of your experience is 'unpleasant' and that it often comes down to 'living this through'.
The solution your personality comes up with is rather simple and according to his mechanism: ensure that the shortage you believe exists, is supplied. His interpretation of the opposite of 'being alone' is 'not being alone' as the solution. So he has you go and look for 'others' in whatever form: virtually on tv, by taking a walk through the city, by calling or going somewhere. The unpleasant aspect here is that in those moments it is so
obvious these are emergency actions only in order to compensate something you cannot make work for yourself and which you experience as personal failure. And the 'good' your personality offers you as a perspective, usually does not come out that way once you find yourself in this situation he tells you is desired (like you must have had the experience of feeling lonely in a crowd).
Your inner Self was not created to experience separation. When you are your Self, you will never experience yourself as alone, simply because that is not 'built in' in your Self. There is always unity, which you will experience as perfectly natural and logical. And like everything which comes from your inner Self, it does not depend on outer circumstances. So you can experience it as easy when you are alone as when you find yourself in
company. The fact that you do not have this experience as yet does not mean you will not remember it to be perfectly natural for you once you remember it.
Your personality is a layer over your inner Self of things you taught yourself to be and which are definitely nót what is your Self. Your essence was not created to appreciate experiencing separation. However, as long as you look through your personality, you will feel lonely and separated and attempt to avoid this experience which you do not like and which seems to be a personal failure of you and on top of that does not feel natural. Your
personality will make you forget as much as possible this costs you a tremendous effort and energy and still is not very succesful.
The 'solution' to loneliness and being alone you will not find in changing the situations in such a way that you do not have to experience this that strong. You will find it in looking for your inner Self. A solution through becoming more aware is not about 'liking to be alone', it is about this no longer being an issue simply because you remembered the other experience, that of unity, to be a continuous part of you, regardless of the outer
circumstances.
