Being claimed

You are likely to regularly find yourself in this kind of situation: it seems like you are being claimed, like you are manoeuvred into a situation where others more or less take over control of your time, your focus of attention, the subjects you deal with, and you seem to lose grip. Usually your resistance against this will vary from either or not wanting or believe you are allowed to say something about this, up to using body language to show your resistance, for example with deep sighs and such, as an attempt to somehow communicate your disagreement with what is going no. At least you are alert in the contact and experience it as less pleasant, since it seems you cannot control your own time and focus of attention, which makes your personality the unpleasant-weakened one in this contact.

Each of the abovementioned ways in which you deal with this, is about focusing on the symptoms and does not really deal with your personality as a source in this process, since you attempt to have the óther person do something (let go of his claim) in order to re-establish the 'truth' of your personality interpretations in order to allow a 'pleasant' outcome after all. Take a closer look at the process, the only thing that really happens is that you notice that the wishes or expectations of your personality are not honoured. Now what is so terrible about that? Besides, have the ways your personality has come up with to deal with this been really successful?

Go for a really new way to deal with this and use the situation for increasing Awareness. Start with determining for yourself that you trust your inner Self knows what is right for you, and then choose to use the situation for increasing awareness of the patterns of your personality in order to be able to let your investment in them go, thus allowing yourself to make more mental space available for your inner Self.

Then let go of your investment in your beliefs about how your contact with this person or these persons should go. Maybe something changes, maybe not, it may even seem to get 'worse'. Still, it may not be pleasant according to the standards and values of your personality, who is likely to come up with ideas like they are pulling your leg, take advantage of you, you make it very easy for the other person etc., however, this does not imply these judgments are truths in themselves or even if you were to believe they are, this has to be labelled as unwanted. It is simply a matter of which goal you pursue, and for this time you have clearly chosen this goal not to be set by your personality so its 'truth' is not to be re-established here. On top of that: a personality screaming and loudly calling for your attention, protesting and arguing, conveniently shows you his obvious judging and interpreting and need for being right in a way you cannot miss ;-) Awareness is likely to move through what seem to be unpleasant situations, so here's one fine example. Remind yourself of the old saying 'what you resist, persists'', which tells you that what you resist will continue to be in your life. So letting go of your resistance is an important key here.