Being criticized

Many of the activities of your personality aim at prevention for being criticized. Regardless of how 'true' the criticism, it seems for a moment there is something wrong with you, and seen from the perspective of your personality this is never a pleasant experience. And what is not pleasant should be avoided, diverted, hidden or otherwise be experienced as little as possible.

When somebody criticizes you, this is nothing more than a judgment from the personality of the other person, based on his perception of you and matched against a unique personal mixture of standards, values and experiences. Criticism is one of the tools which is used to make a world for personalities, to control, give direction and maintain it.

Your inner Self knows no judgment, and so seen from the perspective of your inner Self there is nothing 'wrong' with you, so not one of the judgments made by personalities about you can be really True, whether you experience it as negative, but also the positive ones. On the other hand, this worldview of your inner Self implies as well that there is nothing wrong with the other person, even when he tells these things about you, since someone who does things which do not really mean anything in themselves, cannot be blamed for that. And it also does not mean that you are 'right' because the other person has judged against you and this cannot be a Truth in itself, since being right is about personalities only, in this situation about your personality who judges once again.

So to make a long story short, somebody who criticizes you, does so from a personality perspective. The aspect within you which can mind being criticized, is your personality, because he wants to meet a personality worldview of himself and others, in order to serve personality goals well. Your inner Self does not judge, and so this is the only aspect within you which can give you an experience of inner Peace, regardless of what the other person says or does. Your personality will always want to reason away the criticism, or try to counterattack the other person. Your inner Self knows it does not mean anything in itself and so is not bothered by it at all.

Criticism is in itself a neutral thing, until your personality starts to use it in order to use it to create a certain experience and feeling. And you need no defence against something that is neutral! It can be used as a reminder for a personality issue you still cling on to, or to practice once again that you can deal with it through your inner Self.