Being right

An important tool with which your personality strengthens itself, is the need to have its ideas and thoughts to be confirmed by others. It is something like linking to each other on the internet: the more you are being linked the more important the site will be, according to an important ranking issue for search engines like Altavista. And in everyday life it works almost the same.

When your personality has something extra to offer, like a better job, an age difference, specialized knowledge, fame or other things, then it is much easier for him to promote his ideas and convictions and state that they are true. It now usually will not take too much effort to get this accepted by other people involved.

Now there are various ways in which your opinion can be reinforced. There is a group of people that easily lets you have it your way, but there is also a group that does not surrender that easy. And there is where the challenge for your personality begins. It does not matter what it is about, as long as the point of view from your personality is reinforced. This is where discussions and debates stem from. And an intense activity takes place in your head to find all kinds of arguments and reasons to promote the vision of your personality.

One of the important things that is overlooked here, is that all these activities are merely focusing on proving the other person is wrong by definition, because his or her opinion could not meet yours. Now feel for yourself how it feels when you are the one who is wrong. So being right will give your personality some form of satisfaction, but it also includes that the other person finds himself in an unpleasant situation, because his personality now has to adjust himself to you.

Your inner Self has no need for being right. And Being only requires a little willingness to focus your attention inward. Now what when you find yourself in one of those situations again and see yourself moving towards the same old trap? Be consciously aware during everything that you do (and look at the effects it seems to have on others). And ask yourself the following question: is this what I really want? And then: let it go.