What your personality believes being yourself is about

To your personality, being yourself is somewhat like this: you are able to do what suits hím and you do not experience tension, resistance or other unpleasant feelings. Also, it were to be very nice when others would support him in this and stimulate it, so that he can be almost succesful in creating a pleasant life for you.

Because all this depends on a very specific set of personality references, he does realize immediately this is impossible: those situations where he 'has' to be and which do create tension because they do not fully meet his references, like work or family relations, situations where demands are made of him and such. Because he cannot label them as his own preferences, your personality assumes that he therefore cannot be himself there. Also because of this, being yourself is often seen as something misty and unrealistic, simply because your personality does not see how he can realize this in your everyday life, he only sees glimpses of possibilities in specific and limited moments and circumstances.

However, all this is different from being your Self. Even though being your Self comes with an experience of enormous Peace and is fully logical and familiar, it is not something which comes with terms. The experience is simply there, regardless of outer circumnstances. And so you can be your Self everywhere. Also in those situations where your personality believes this is impossible because of demands and wishes others place on you. Being your Self is not about changing circumstances, it is about changing the source of your experiences.

Being yourself cannot be 'done', you cannot find it nor control it through your personality. You do not have to do or not do anything, it is already there and ready for you to experience when you let go of whatever limitation you have put in the way of experiencing it through your personality. Also in those situations where your personality believes he has to play a considerable role. Yes, this is quite a lot of work, but so very worth while. All of this site is dedicated to this process of remembering, it's up to you to make a start.