Body language

In contacts with other people, you not only perceive what it is they say, but also what they express through their body, especially the facial expressions. You should already be aware this is a highly overrated skill by the amount of effort you yourself put into trying to hide your true thoughts and feelings from perception by others, the amount of energy you put into having your body language differ from your true feelings, etc. Still, somewhere somehow, conscious or less conscious, something is likely to break through this mask. Let's use the example where somebody closes his mind on you.

What happens then, is: your personality perceives this, interprets it and thinks: closing your mind is wrong, it brings me an unpleasant experience when I perceive this in you - especially when it is aimed towards me - since this does not meet the desired 'pleasant' experience. Depending on your personalities choice, you are likely to respond through closing your mind on the other person as well, attempting to talk about it, do something different, or likewise. All these follow the decision of the first person about closing minds, and reinforce it.

Your personality has learned that reacting-on is a normal and even preferred pattern. That it is the source of usually less pleasant experiences, is not mentioned along with it and should be considered a personal mistake of yours (what you in return try to hide). Reacting-on is appropriate when you want to uphold and strengthen personalities, however, using the endless amount of bodily expressions of others to create personality reactions within yourself, can be easily let go when you no longer have a need for that.

Your alternative choice is: I see that your personality closes his mind on me, however, I do not know what this really means. Often it can be convenient to forgive the other person involved, since it all starts with your first interpretation that you truly blame the other person that he puts you through this experience (even though the speed with which you work your way through this reaction mechanism may suggest another reaction is your first response). Then realize that by focusing on closing one's mind, you focus on a personality aspect rather than on the inner Self of the other person (thus making the personality experience within yourself real again). Be confident to break this pattern and then let yourself be surprised what follows or does not follow from there. And notice that when you no longer feel the need to focus on the personality aspect of your contact, your focus on bodily language will simply disappear, since it is no more than a personality tool which attempts to control.