You also close your mind on pléasant experiences

From an early age on, your personality learns to close his mind onto others. He 'processes' each and every situation that comes to mind, even those he is not directly involved in, and as a result from pulling these through the filters of judgment and interpretation, he ends up with a great amount of often unpleasant feelings. Practically this is not workable, since it is impossible to convert all these situations into the desired pleasant ones. And so a logical way to deal with this, seems inventing a workaround through which you need not feel the pain. For this, closing your mind is invented (see also separate column on this), and intending to be a prevention mechanism it is applied to both pleasant and unpleasant situations alike (since you cannot know beforehand which outcome is likely to emerge from a certain situation). The fact that it ís a workaround can be easily noticed through all those times where it does not work and you still have to face these feelings.

What your personality makes you forget, is that when you close your mind like this, you automatically close your mind on everything, because it intends to limit yourself to what seems to be the safe environment of your personality where he can continue to make his way of looking at the world true. So you also close it on the experience of each and everybody's inner Self, love and likewise experiences. Your basic experience has now become one of quite intense separation, with only very limited occasions on which you allow yourself to let go of this control mechanism.

In order to allow yourself to let go, you need to be ready to face the mechanism of closing your mind, and recognize this does not bring you what you are really looking for. Okay, for your personality it seemed a practical tool to survive, however, it also is a huge limitation on your awareness which does not bring you where you want to get, nor closer to what you are really looking for.

This does not mean that letting go means that you will now be overwhelmed by all those unpleasant experiences your personality feared, on the contrary. Letting go is something different from 'not doing something anymore' (there also is a separate column on this issue). Your vulnerability does not increase when you no longer close your mind onto others when at the same time you realize that you created these experiences yourself through your own interpretations, judgments and expectations. And once you no longer apply these onto a situation, the issue has simply 'gone' and the need for closing your mind has gone as well. Now things will only become more peaceful when you strengthen that which everybody is really looking for: the very pleasant experience of your inner Self.