Confident about your own abilities

The ideal situation for your personality is, that you immediately are good at things, know, understand, and never make mistakes, and that whenever this should occur, you will not suffer unpleasant consequences, nor have to see yourself as vulnerable or weakened (others are often very helpful in reminding you of this). An interpretation of something as 'wrong' or 'not (yet) being able to', is always judged as a personal failure by your personality, even though you have become very good at inventing mechanisms to deal with it, varying from immediately labeling it a s a challenge, start practicing, hide it for yourself and others, blaming others, use defence mechanisms, or immediately feel down and stop with it altogether. In any case, your choice will aim at undoing the unpleasant interpretation your personality made.

Usually you let life convince you that it is not all that bad when things go wrong every once in a while, and your confidence grows, which means that on the one hand you notice that often enough you are able to live up to the expectations, and on the other hand can live with the frequency and intensity of the unpleasant consequences. On the other hand, the expectation of certain consequences can also turn against this process and make you careful or even fearful, whatever your personality chooses, sometimes combined with some unpleasant past experiences which you still try to make real in the present as well. In all these situations, you still approach the situation through your personality, and try to control the consequences with personality tools.

Recognize this is how it works, see the individual steps in the process, and notice that it is impossible in this way to ever make it really work for you. The intensity with which you experience the feeling your personality calls forth, may vary from a small stitch to a huge feeling. The intensity itself is not the issue, the fact thát there is a reaction, is enough. Huge feelings can even be considered an advantage, since they cannot be easily overlooked ;-)

Your inner Self has no 'confidence', it knows that a situation in itself does not mean anything. Only your personality follows the process of perception, interpretation, assigning feelings to it, and do something based on those feelings (usually: try to get rid of them). Your inner Self only perceives and knows that every situation can be used, besides for performing some practical steps, for strengthening the remembrance of your inner Self, either through consciously becoming aware of and live through the steps your personality takes, notice these do not bring you anything you want, and then ask for inspiration from your inner Self to see the situation in a new perspective in retrospect. Of course you can invite your inner Self at the beginning of a situation as well, and follow its inspiration and notice how your experience now differs from the one your personality would bring you.