How to control your personality

Your personality is a piece of yourself, and when you see this as an enemy, you are at war with yourself. So playing the boss is not recommended. You can, however, make sure his strength consequently diminishes. By becoming more and more aware of what is really happening, and questioning everything your personality does, thus becoming more and more aware of the fact that its results are not pleasant. And as your personality is success-driven, and you start to question what he has labeled "successful", you can rest assured that he will no longer strengthen these patterns.

Do not look for solutions or alternative ways, that would only strengthen your personality again: if this does not work, I will look for something else that does. It is your inner Self that your are looking for, which is a completely different aspect of you, and it is guaranteed that your personality cannot get there, in fact, you can only find it in those moments where your personality is not in your awareness. And do not start to question everything in your life at once, since that would only make your personality feel very much weakened and attacked, which would call forth defensive behaviour only, and result in feelings like depression or fear. Take it easy on yourself, and learn at your own pace. A few examples:

your personality tells you what to do or how to react. Take a deep breath and focus your attention inward, before you react to that.
there is a more or less profound feeling of unpleasantness. Put it into words, for example in writing. And then ask yourself the question: is this really so? (an answer is not interesting)
a situation has created tension within you. Cry, talk or throw it out. And tell the people around you: please do not take this seriously, because it is not a truth in itself, I only believed it was. Please do not tell me that I am right, otherwise I might even be tempted to believe that my personality was right after all.
there is an endless pattern of thoughts repeating themselves in your head. Simply introduce the thought: stop.
you get irritated by something or someone. Tell yourself: I am irritated, and I do not like that.
you find yourself judging someone or something. Tell yourself: there is a different way to look at this (and what that way is, is not interesting in itself)
you could do the same when you are feeling angry: I am angry, and I believe that to be very annoying.
you see yourself trying to hide some feelings, for example through drinking or nibbling, which will surely be followed by feelings of guilt. Tell yourself: there is nothing wrong with me.
whenever you feel fearful: fear does not have any power in itself
when you find your personality is trying to hide in what he sees as a difficult situation: it is safe to move through this.
when you are grumpy with yourself or others: it is good the way it is
when you have a lot of tasks and it seems like you are never ready: "ready is only one moment in time"
when you are facing a lot of trouble: let it be. There will be an answer, even though I am not aware of it right now.
whenever you feel that there is pressure on you about a deadline: it will be all right / I will be there at the right moment in time, whatever that may be
if things do not go the way you want them to: it does not always have to go the way I want to.
when you are arguing: this does not make me happy
when yo do not like a person: I may not like this person, but that does not mean anything in itself.

It is of course true that when you are no longer in charge, it seems that there is a risk for unpleasant experiences. But if you are really honest, then you have to admit that you are having these too when your personality is in charge. Whether you are late because of a traffic jam (which you see as a cause outside yourself) or because you have overslept (for which you blame yourself): in both situations you are likely to have been very stressed all the way to your appointment, and are likely to enter the building there in a hurry and with some appropriate excuses. Only in the first situation you are likely to feel a bit safer than the other, because you were not entirely to blame for the cause, in the second situation you have to admit a personal failure.