Copying

There are people who copy other people. What you do, the other person does as well. What you have, he will have in no time. Etc. As flattering as this may sometimes be, on the other hand it is quite annoying. Since the goal of your personality of all kinds of issues he introduces in your life, is to stand out, exclusivity, specialness. And how can you be special when someone else, who is likely to be in your neighborhood, almost immediately copies you?

Your personality likes to believe that the solution is to be found in addressing the problem to the óther person, who should stop with this copying stuff in order to let you be free to be special again. Or you may want to push the other person out of your life so as not having to face it. This all overlooks the gift the other person holds out to you: an unmistakable opportunity for becoming aware of the rules and tricks of your own personality with regard to these issues.

You then may choose to look at this situation from your own point of view, what you can use it for, which potential for awareness it holds out to you in relationship with this person. Since here you can face your personality clearly at work on the level of looks, appearances, making something out of things and specialness, and even though having to face this will no doubt make you aware of unpleasant feelings, it also may induce your motivation to really deal with it. Become aware of the goals of your personality when he sets out to do or buy something, and what he intends to use it for in your life (and how it actually turns out when you apply it), and use this for becoming aware of the role of your personality and letting go of the energy that you invest in it yourself. Now the advantage is, that the other person is likely to keep on offering you new input for a while, a great opportunity for you to practice and deal with all the layers involved. You need not even get in touch with the person who copies you (even though this is a tempting thought to your personality), since then you were to look for a solution in changing the input, thus aiming for a solution which would conveniently uphold your personality mechanisms.

And what when you are the copier yourself? You can use the interaction as described here for your awareness as well. Each time you see something new with the person you want to copy, become aware of what your personality wants to use it for. Obviously the picture of what the other person shows you, is attractive for you, and your personality - wanting the same kind of experience - sees copying as the solution. It can of course be that your personality envies the other person for what he has and feels inferior in comparison, which then is your drive for copying behaviour. Your personality hopes that the output of the copying process will be that you are somewhat as successful as the other person seems to be, so he does not have to face that he cannot make your life work as well as you would like. It also prevents you from having to focus your attention inward and clearly notice that your personality does not have these nice or pretty ideas. You thus forget that what seems to be a failure, actually is a great gift: you are not distracted by upholding the idea that you yourself can make things work, you actually know that you fail in that. And what seems to be personal failure, is now an easy access to open up to your inner Self: it is there only where you will find the experiences that you are really looking for, in a direct way without having to use all kinds of external input.

The both of you deal with the same issue: you focus on the form of what is copied. Rest assured that you are not alone in that behaviour, copying is a very common habit: look at magazines for instance from this point of view!