Delegate

You are being made responsible for something, and yet you can (or should) not do it all yourself. For this, the possibility to delegate has been invented: other people will do part of the job for you, while you remain responsible for the overall result. In itself, and looked at from a distance, this seems like a nice concept, especially when everybody involved does what is expected of him or her: a job well done and in time. The job is done, you did not have to do it all by yourself, the one who made you responsible is content, and you can feel good about it. However, there is a whole series of personality disadvantages involved as well: other people do not do it as well or as fast as you would, or at least in a different way, they do it on different moments, they do not cooperate, they do not welcome your assignment, make mistakes, etc. Chances on full appraisal of your work now diminish rapidly. Often there are so many disadvantages, that your personality rather would do it all by himself, or describe and control every step along the way, than dealing with these unpleasantness.

Delegation therefore automatically introduces personal vulnerability and dependence, since you are the one who will be held accountable for the overall results, whereas óthers are the ones who do not perform up to the desired standard, or fail in other ways. This is ideal for personalities, since you cannot solve this. You yourself have not caused it, and yet have to face unpleasant response because of it, or get stuck with the blame. Now the only good thing about all this is, that whén things do not work out as expected, others can be blamed by your personality, even though he knows that he himself will be held responsible, however, this allows him to take away a bit of this heavy load off of his own shoulders.

You may start with becoming aware of the fact that things are the way they are described as above, and that you cannot but find yourself in a situation which to your personality implies insecurity, dependence, and vulnerability, as well as the possibility that you will have to settle for less than he could have offered had he done the job all by himself. Also realize that this overall picture can only be seen as a truth in itself through interpreting and judging, and that you will have a different experience when you do not do so.

A specific result is wanted, usually described, maybe it can even be measured. And there is the way you experience the process in which you come to this result, and the judgment which is likely to follow. From now on, you could add an extra ingredient to this process: one of using it as well for dealing with the experience part, and remembering how it can be used to face practical issues like this through your inner Self. You already know what the outcome will be when you approach it through your personality, and you know by now that this is actually not very attractive ;-)