Why you become dissatisfied when you have everything you want

Your personality lives for an important part on the illusion he gives you that once you have this or that, your life will become good. This will be your drive to go from one situation to the other one, lets you accept all kinds of unpleasantness etc. Discovering that it is never going to be truly good, usually takes a while, since all the invention of all kinds of things which offer the promise of pleasure, continues, and you may keep on desiring these, in such a way that you can label a goal not truly reached as a minor mistake.

As long as you are chasing this kind of promises, your personality has enough things to do. All kinds of things have to be arranged, thought of, the goal has to remain attractive in your thoughts, you need to feel dissatisfied because you do not have it as yet, etc. Until you reach the point where you do have everything your personality has labeled as desirable, and once you get there, you find that you still have not reached the ultimate happiness. This is impossible by nature, since in itself these things cannot offer you anything, only for as long as you do not have them, it sééms like they could offer something. However, it becomes more and more obvious when you do have them and you still cannot make a wonderful life out of it. And there is not much left to do for your personality then, since you already 'have everything'.

Now your personality is somewhat unemployed, and this is not only unpleasant for him, chances that you are going to believe him when he tries to pull this trick once again, are very little. So you now actually experience that your personality cannot really offer you anything (in popular terms this is called depression). This is a great moment for your personality to throw you into a personal crisis. Boyoboy, all these desirable things which cannot make you happy, there must be something very wrong with you. Here you personality presents himself as your savior once again, he will start looking for another way for you to deal with this and 'solve' it. Now he created a new role for himself and offered you hope for the better in a situation which threatened to become dangerous to him, without you now starting to doubt the mechanism in itself.

And should you find it in yourself to nót to become depressive, or actually live through this and let your personality be less prominent in your life, then there are plenty of other opportunities for your personality to win your attention back, a.o. physical issues are a popular option for this.

The real solution is not trying to get 'back to normal', that would be a waste of the process you have lived through so far and have reached the point where you can no longer make your personality really work. Simply hold on and continue, not by reestablishing the ideas of your personality as a truth in themselves, but by starting the process of truly becoming aware of how your personality works in your life, realizing this does not bring you want you really want, and reminding yourself on how this thing with your inner Self works. You may look at other columns on the site to learn more about this.