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Dissociate, a well-known trick

A very familiar way in which your personality will attempt to use this inspiration to strengthen his own worldview, is to associate "letting go" with "dissociating". What is the difference?

When you dissociate yourself from a situation, you may keep your original judgments and interpretations about the people involved or the situation at hand, and yet in some ingenious way your personality can convince you that he does not have to be actively involved here. He now has nothing to do with it anymore. But the good part for him is, that he did not have to adjust any of his interpretations, and can now sit back and watch other people do things that he does not agree upon, so his own point of view remains strong as ever. 

The difference with letting go is, that when you let go, you have to face the original judgments and interpretations of your personality, using them to become aware of the fact that they do not bring you anything you really want. Thus you choose to no longer strengthen them, and preferably let go of them altogether, stop believing them and no longer put any effort in upholding them. Thus leaving no space for your personality to strengthen itself, and now there is mental space available for the remembrance of your inner Self.

Now is it wrong to dissociate yourself? In itself nothing is either wrong nor good, it is the intention with which you use it that counts. Dissociating is likely to strengthen your personality, and letting go will make mental space available for the remembrance of your inner Self. But dissociating could be used as a temporary station for example, a convenient place between "jumping all over the place" and "letting go" when the situation at hand is to intense to bridge at once. Only keep in mind that it is a tool you now use, and that it only can serve you temporarily.



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