Why you always look for error in others

Often enough you become quite tired of yourself: in each and everyone your personality looks for something to criticize, oppose, feel better than the other person, attempt to be right, etc. Why does your personality do this?

Once your personality became a presence in your life, it automatically became very clear to you this was not at all as pleasant as you had hoped. You now found yourself with a considerable unpleasant experience where you had to experience yourself as completely separated from others, did not have a good time, and were responsible for this yourself as well. Now that was too much to handle, and so your personality came up with the convenient option to blame everybody bút yourself for all your unpleasant experiences as a result from himself as a mechanism, which now makes him look completely 'good' and 'innocent', so you would not start to question your personality in itself. In order to make this work, each and everyone who does not support the views of your personality in any situation, has to be labeled as wrong or guilty, in order to be able to uphold this protection.

The solution to this? It starts with the conscious choice to no longer blame the outside world for your experiences through your own interpretations, and put responsibility there were it belongs: with you. You cannot truly 'free' yourself from a world which seems to be able to do all kinds of things to you, and yet you can from a world you created yourself. It is not so much about the focus on the form of the experience, as well as the steps you take in creating the experience within you. Then start with reminding yourself why you are doing this (see the above) and that you want to bring the responsibility where it belongs: with yourself, rather than with others. For other inspiration, a.o. on actively inviting your inner Self into the situation, you may look at various other columns on this site.