Express your feelings

It is a popular waste of time, asking about each others feelings, even stimulating they are being expressed. No wonder, creating feelings is the core business of your personality, and one of which we automatically understand that it not only determines your vision on other people, but one that is a continuous source of tensions as well (pleasant ones or less pleasant ones).

For yourself, expressing your feelings is a fine way of making sure that you are being 'known', to get support for your personalities way of looking at the world and the results of its process of interpreting, and - when you are lucky - to increase the chance that other people will be supportive in your avoiding situations that your personality were to label as unpleasant and, on top of that, extra attention for situations and things that you do like.

For other people your expressing your feelings is partly pleasant as well: they now do not have to guess what is going on in your mind, they know with what to please you and what to use to hurt you, they assume to know whether or not you like them, etc. This tends to become unpleasant when they themselves are not looking too good in your eyes, or when irritating or impossible issues come of it, then this will become a source of tension for them in return.

It is also possible that your personality does not wánt to express his feelings. Usually this is because of unpleasant experiences when he did express them, which he has labeled as annoying or unpleasant (a.o. when others do not understand you, or want to change your mind, not enough attention, negative reactions etc.) which made him feel extra vulnerable. This non-expressing gives another kind of control, especially aimed at the idea this choice will save you from unpleasant feelings being increased through others.

Whether or not you express your feelings is not right or wrong in itself, more interesting is the question what you want to use the process for: to make your personality more real to yourself and others, or to become aware what it is that he is doing and what he uses it for, then using the awareness that will result from this as an extra reminder not to put any effort in your personality anymore.

And when your personality wants you to believe that it is necessary to share this type of information in order to be able to fulfill a social role, you may ask yourself the question: do you want other people to get to know your personality better, thus 'helping' each other to uphold and strengthen it. Or do you want them and yourself to get more experience in dealing with the inner Self. You may want to check the column 'talking about it' as well. By the way, you can for example express your feelings and at the same time use that moment - and the reactions of others - to become aware this is a personality tool that does not bring you anything you really want, thus releasing the belief you have put in it over the years once more.