Filter on reality

The training of your personality puts all your experiences in a perspective that narrows your worldview. Especially the labels that your personality hangs on every situation, will color your experiences. So the filter on reality actually is a way in which your personality assures some form of predictability in your experiences. Thus your personality can guarantee a certain amount of feelings that you have judged to be pleasant, like security, safety, trust, specialness, power etc., as he will search every situation for these ingredients. He will also make sure that he blocks unpleasant ones from your awareness as much as possible.

Now when you like the color blue for example, or smiling people, or blond ones, then whenever you are in a situation, your personality is likely to draw your attention to these items. Or, when you have chosen to feel good at the expense of others, you will find all kinds of things to criticize almost immediately. And when you close your mind for emotional signals from others, you will not get too involved, which could be good seen from the perspective of your personality. Now that does not mean that other people do not show emotional signals, only that you do not notice them, or only faintly.

It is your choice to maintain these laws and to apply them again and again. But they do not have a status of their own: whenever you want it, you can let go of them, only to never entertain these ideas ever again. Simply, by making the choice for your inner Self, and renewing that choice in each and every situation that calls it forth. Your inner Self is an experience that does not follow laws like quality, amount, predictability etc. from your outer circumstances. By letting go of your standard focus, every situation now can bring you the experience that is right for you, rather than a forced repetition of an experience that once was good for you.