Handling things differently

Your personality will tell you that the solution for any situation that does not work well for you, is: handle it in a new way. Something has to be changed, that is obvious as far as he is concerned, since the present situation does not allow him to come up with an acceptable interpretation, and you have started to notice that it is not "fun" anymore. So there you go, looking for new ways to deal with it, fresh approaches towards control methods, possibilities for making changes in participants, circumstances, means available, motivations etc. Thus you are about to believe that the change itself will bring the solution, and as long as you are working on this change, there is hope indeed.

Now what you see here is that the very beginning of all this is: the interpretation of a situation and labeling it to be unpleasant or unwanted, followed by the will to change this into a situation where the outcome of your interpretation can indeed be pleasant or wanted. This automatically turns everything that follows from here into personality tools, used for carrying out this wish.

A situation in itself is neutral, not 'difficult' or unwanted in any other way; it is your personality that makes it difficult by judging it to be so. The solution for a difficult situation therefore has to be found in the awareness that you yourself have labeled it as such, however this does not mean that it is difficult by nature. And when a situation is not difficult by nature, there is no reason for not wanting to be in it or even wanting to change anything.

Now watch your personality telling you about dozens of reasons and arguments which will support the righteousness of his judgment as 'difficult'. However, you have a choice and pick the one you want: do you want to make this idea true for the rest of your life and spend tremendous amounts of energy in changing input over and over again. Or do you want to take a chance on a new approach where you look at the mechanism that applies these labels in the first place (your personality) and become aware of the simple fact that you have a choice whether or not to apply it.

So the next time you find yourself in a difficult, annoying or otherwise unpleasant situation, tell yourself: I do not know what this really means, I ask my inner Self to inspire me here. Chances are that you will then start to use the situation at hand to become aware of all kinds of judgment your personality upholds with regard to the situation or people figuring in it, and that you become aware of the much more pleasant feeling that comes from freeing other people from their assumed responsibility for your feelings, through releasing your investment in the judging principle. Once you have finished what is to be learned from you in any given situation, you will move on to new situations with new issues to be practiced. There will always be changes in your life, only now your drive does not come from unhappiness or the wish to escape, but from inspiration through your inner Self. Sometimes it will be within the same context, group of people, and other 'ingredients'. And sometimes one or more of these aspects will change.