Hating other people

Seen from the perspective of your personality, it is very normal to hate (a lot of!) other people. However, expressing this too obviously will not make you very popular, so you treat it as some personal mistake which applies to you only, and which other people do not seem to make, thus implying that there is something very wrong with you.

Why is it normal to hate other people? When someone else has something or does something that your personality wants to have or do, then you simply hate that other person for demonstrating it is possible to have this or accomplish this, and since you do not have it, there obviously is something wrong with you. This applies to any situation, whether it is about money, a nice family, when it seems others have no worries, when they have solved an issue that you are wrestling with at the moment, when they appear lovingly, etc.

Also in situations where the other person reflects an unpleasant picture, e.g. not liking you all the time, not being nice, introducing things to maintain distance like accent, attitude etc, will stimulate this reaction in your personality. Not to forget all those situations where people order you to do things. Actually you do not hate these other persons in themselves, you hate what they make you aware of in yourself: your personality cannot make you feel incredibly good and successful through this.

By hating another person, your personality is able to hide the real cause of this hate behind some vague label like "I simply hate him/her", and in order to make this an attractive escape mechanism, it was decided this is somewhat "normal behaviour". So the good part for your personality here is that he succeeds in turning this situation into a "mistake" of someone else. A standard reaction to follow this first interpretation is, that it is "logical" that you are not too eager to continue any contact with this person, so the number of times that your personality actually has to deal with the unpleasantness itself is now limited as well. So when you come to think of it, this is a miraculous yet to personalities very acceptable way of dealing with those situations he cannot turn into a success story for himself due to other people.

Now what to do when you find your personality using hate towards another person: see this as an occasion to practice awareness of the original feelings of your personality caused by the situation at hand. By facing the real cause and not believing it to be a truth in itself, you break the vicious circle and use it to lessen the energy you put in maintaining the thought patterns of your personality in favour of your inner Self.

Be not too hard on yourself, though, everybody has a personality, and each personality does this. So there is nothing wrong with you. It is simply a thought pattern that no longer brings you what you really want.