Fair and honest ....

From early age on, you have been raised with the idea that things should be 'honest' and fair. Fair sharing, honestly tell what happened, doing things together, the course of things, reward, chance etc. Honesty and fairness are ideas that you should be treated equal to somebody else, regardless of the differences in 'power'. It seems to be a great invention which could prevent tensions because of the clear and universal underlying idea. However, here the problems begin already. Since how do you fairly share the household issues? What is honest sharing with regard to a non-dividable thing which you both want? What when the other person does not share your starting point to begin with? Etc.

The idea of fair and honest usually has been made a very strong part of your personality, and you will find that anything that may even come close to being able to be judged according to it, will be done so accordingly. Now reality shows that things very often are not fair or honest, and that even when applying this label there will always remain some issues that will cause tension becáuse they does not meet the standard. So again, these two words represent another personality sources for tension and grip, chosen over and over again to be forced as a judgment on a situation. And why? Because you were led to believe that it should be possible, and because you have been judged according to these standards by others.

You are invited to let go of the idea of honesty and fairness altogether. It may not be fair (for you or others involved), however, that does not mean that it is not right the way it is (even though you can be sure it is nót so when judged through your personality, so in order to truly believe this, you have to invite your inner Self into the situation). This process of letting go without choosing something else to take its place does not make you an egoistic person, on the contrary, you let go of the personality aspect which creates and regulates this and thus make mental space available for inspiration which comes from something different within you. You can help yourself to do so by asking yourself the questions "should this be" and "how". For example "should this be divided in the first place, and if so: how. Should this be dealt with now and if so, how. Should this information be brought to public knowledge and if so, how. And while you do this, open up to inspiration from your inner Self and let the answers to these questions be inspired by this aspect.