When you have a húge problem

The essence of a problem is, that your personality cannot make a situation work well enough to meet his standards, values and judgments (whether they are his own or that others have forced these on him - he attempts to make them 'true' in both situations). This always leads to some form of tension, which your personality will attempt to get rid of in ways he has experienced to be successful for him. A relatively small problem can be expected to be able to somewhat be forced into these personality issues, and so you are likely to see these more as temporarily and able to be overseen. You also have not used these to heavily invest in your self image.

A huge problem is nothing more than a normal problem, only now you know almost absolutely for sure that you will never be able to make this situation work according to the standards, values and judgments of your personality, and this means you 'thus' find yourself stuck with the tension which accompanies this. The circumstances simply do not adjust, or not enough, to the preferences and ideas of your personality. Thát is why it is a problem. There is no outlook on a solution or diminishing of the unpleasant experiences. You also are likely to have heavily invested in the subject at hand to support your self image. 

This outlook is very unpleasant, and your personality is likely to attempt to escape this. Sometimes through a rigorous action like for example flee, bodily or mental issues. Often less rigorous as well, however, this does not mean you were to be 'better off' by that, since you are likely to find yourself repeat the situation mentally over and over again, hoping that in time the intensity and pain may decrease or hoping that it turns out that you have overlooked something and you will be able to make it work anyway, or find yourself attempting to force the 'truth' of your personality on the situation for a long period of time.

The only true solution can be found by letting go of the investments in the points of view your personality comes up with. In facing your need to continue to make your own standards, values, ideas and righteousness true, and at the same time recognizing these do not bring you what you really want. When you have a huge problem it is extra obvious this is so, and on the one hand this makes it easier for you to face the fact that you do not serve yourself well through your personality. Do realize you simply cannot make it work through your personality. But also that you need not do so, because there is a different way to deal with it: through your inner Self. However, it takes a lot of courage and trust to enter into this process yourself, since you have invested for years and heavily in the ways of your personality and attempting to make these true, and now the alternative which is suggested here very much looks like loss of self image and not taking care of your own best interests. Still: it is possible to make this shift, unless you decide that you do not want to. Understand that you are the one who prominently suffers the personality idea that you should have to make this work according to certain standards and ideas you adopted.

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