What your personality does after he got hurt

An example: you find yourself in a situation where you opened up and then got hurt. This is about: being in a situation where your personality did not put too many barriers and defence mechanisms between himself and the input in that moment in time and was prepared to process it, he was confronted with something which he interpreted to be unpleasant, hurting or such and now had to experience this in full. The next thoughts of your personality are likely to be somewhat like: opening up (read: interact with your environment without defence mechanisms) is dangerous. What are possible solutions for him?

A very popular one is: no longer open up, this should prevent you from having to face this hurt ever again, and means as much as laying a filter over everything that comes to your awareness, and limit spontaneous in- and output, thus hoping to limit in the future any further unpleasantness through this control, which uses hiding from your awareness from those issues which might be threatening, as a control device. Quite efficient, however, with a very limiting effect on your experiences.
The second alternative is about preventing that you get hurt. This means you are dependent on other people, and this too is not a very successful approach, usually it results in either you attacking first, thus attempting to avoid unpleasantness imposed on you by others, or try to control the other person with all kinds of rules and do's and don'ts. There is of course the possibility to totally withdraw from a contact as well.
Learning to deal with it is a good third option, yet this is more about trying to reason away your hurt time and time again. You may read this column on why you are likely to never be successful in this.
So actually none of the above options offers a guaranteed successful approach, however, you got used to the limitations of personality options.

It is much more efficient to step back even further, thus approaching your inner Self, to the moment where the hurt itself is experienced. There is the moment in time where you decide to have your perception of a situation to be followed by what seems the next obvious step: interpretation. However, when you do not interpret, there also is nothing to follow from there, so there will be no judgment that you are hurt, and you need not find a solution for the unpleasant feeling. Non-interpreting is nót about: hide from your awareness as fast as possible that you interpreted at all, it is about becoming aware of the process thát you did so (and which personality goal is served by it), then deciding this is not what you really want.

It also usurps a lot of your energy to uphold all these possible solutions. You have to be on a constant lookout what defence mechanisms you should have at stand-by, and process all situations through them. Imagine what mental space would become available to you when you would no longer have to do this!

A fine example with regard to your personality being hurt is about the process of remembering your inner Self. Since each time where you get an experience with your inner Self and then experience your personality again, this is definitely unpleasant. So your personality is likely to state that you better stop with this process of increasing Awareness, then you do not have to face this unpleasantness either ;-)