Unavoidable, impossible and other un-/im-things

These are success tools in your personality assortment. As soon as this im-label has been handed out, the real message is: forget it from here. Forget all hope that things could be different from what the bringer of this judgment wants you to believe (your own personality or that of someone else). What is going to happen from here seems to be predetermined: whatever should happen according to this judgment has to happen. Forget all hope for change. Stop with investing your energy in the impossible situation. Anything that you try to do to try to change this, search for solutions or oppose it, is useless. So this is a very intense way of forcing someone (yourself included) to accept the image that a certain personality has made of this situation.

When you are the 'subject' of this judgment, it seems there are only two possibilities: either accept it, or reject it. Accepting offers certain advantages for all personalities involved: someone will not fight the basis of the judgment itself and accepts it, and can now try to live up to the accompanying expectations as good as possible, make the best of it. This is often the case when the person who made the judgment does so from a certain professional authority or experience. For the one who made the judgment, this is a great way to be in control.
Fighting it would mean that you would have to oppose the tremendously heavy burden of the judgment as long as possible, and make every effort to prove the opposite or postpone 'the inevitable', which too actually is a choice for control and focus on the judgment itself.

However, there is a third possibility: questioning the principle of judgment itself. Someone can judge a certain situation, but this does not mean that the outcome is a truth in itself, nor that you now know what it really means. The only thing you 'know' is that someone, with a certain personality background, has labeled a situation. It is up to you to join him in that or simply acknowledge that it is there and ask your inner Self for inspiration.

For every judgment where someone has neatly 'lived up to it', there are many others where reality has proven otherwise. Your life consists of experiences that you move through, and the most important choice you can make, is the one what you use these experiences for. What kind of awareness do you want to come from it, and so what aspect in yourself to you want to be strengthened by it: personality or inner Self. It is not so much about whether or not the judgment is right, or to change something, or to prove the contrary, it is about what you use the process for that you find yourself in: in this case you can use it specifically for issues with regard to faith and trust in judgment of personalities or instead increase your faith in the inspiration of your inner Self.

By the way, this kind of intense judgments can serve very well as a kind of wake-up call: you believed that life based on your personality was quite fine and controllable, and now you have to go and look for something else within you.