Who’s in charge

Who actually makes the decisions in your life? And I mean really simple decisions, like "what shall I eat", "what will I wear", and things like that. Ten to one that the answer is: my personality. Because all those little decisions are excellent opportunities to establish a world of his own and interpret it for your.

Let's take look at "food" for example. You eat something, and it is very likely that your personality will tell you that it does not meet one or more of the standards it maintains. The taste, nutrition value, ingredients, amount, time of the day or whatever. So it is an excellent source for the projection of guilt, more or less. But do not be mistaken, the choice of your cloths, tv program, time to wake up, make appointments etcetera follow the same pattern.

For example, I have to be at work at nine o'clock. I count backwards and decide that seven-thirty is the right time to get up, and included a small traffic jam in this calculation. It is not very likely that I will be there at exactly nine o'clock, but I will be there earlier or later, be it for seconds. These results are used by my personality to judge everything I did that morning. The only thing that counts for him is the nine o'clock deadline. And too early is as wrong for him has too late, too early is only safer because of the response of others. Judging 1,5 hour of experience and use 1 label to judge it against: "nine o'clock" is a sorry way to look at everything that took place within that period of time, and what that meant for you and the people around you. This is typical personality though. In advance the road is made less important than the goal, and afterwards you include the contacts, experiences and growth (like the way you yelled at your kids this morning because you thought you could not leave in time). Through the eyes of your personality it is always wrong or not right, that is normal. .

How could you use these everyday situations to bring about a change? Start with becoming aware that there is a choice, simply by asking the question, e.g. "what shall I wear today", and then know that your personality will answer first. Take that information for granted, but do not react to it. You could do that, but you do not have to. You could then ask a second question: is that really so, what does my inner Self has to add to this. This will help you to shift the focus of your attention, it does not matter so much what you are going to wear, it is about the intention with which you make the decision. Learn to trust your inner Self who knows what time you have to be where, what cloths are appropriate. And whatever is "in time", "appropriate" and "right" you leave in the middle.

Your inner Self could, for example, also make you eat snacks or cookies. The fun part is, that when your inner Self inspires that, you will not feel guilty afterwards, much unlike your personality who uses it to make you feel guilty. It is also possible that when you want to grab a snack, you may get the feeling from your inner Self that you do not have to. And that answer comes with a sense of inner peace that takes away the urge for the snack. Your personality does not understand this, as it is not at all like the way he directs these things. So you are likely to face a series of thoughts why this cannot be true. That does not matter, simply become aware of them and even move through feelings he may have you feel. The feeling of your inner Self is strong enough to not have you doubt.

It also has some transforming effects, when a situation that you used to use to feel guilty, now can be lived without it. That does not mean that you never will feel guilty again after one choice, that would be very easy. The grip of your personality on your life is huge, and be prepared that you have to make this choice over and over again in all kinds of different situations, maybe even only a few minutes later. But it does strengthen your confidence in the effects of making space to remember your inner Self. It is a way of becoming aware that you will practice in existing and new situations, thus helping you to diminish the strength of your personality.

It is all about practicing. Pop the question, and open up for the answer from your inner Self. You will learn to notice the difference between a reaction from your personality and one from your inner Self. Those of your personality always come with a sense of doubt, guilt, fear, irritation etc., beforehand or afterwards. And those of your inner Self always will lead to a feeling of inner Peace that will stand like a rock (even if only for a very short period of time), and you will simply "know" that it is right.