Assign things to yourself

Because your personality drags everything that comes to mind along his own filter of standards and interpretations, you cannot escape the fact that your experiences will always be personally oriented. When someone says something, or does - or does not something, it thus seems natural to see it in a light where you are involved as well, be it as a more or less involved interpreter. Thus you experience what you would think of something, or by putting yourself within the spotlight of what is said or happens, you discover your own feelings as a participant. Now this applies to all sorts of contact: direct personal contact as well as written ones, and contacts that do not involve you directly (for example conversations you overhear: on tv, in the supermarket etc.).

Once you start addressing things to yourself, they are subject to the simple personality interpretations that inevitably will lead to the outcome 'good' or 'wrong', and the last one is the most common one. Everything that comes to the awareness of your personality is subject to this process in which he interprets according to these standards and judgment against the preferred outcome 'good', not only for himself, but in the eyes of others as well. Which, by the way, is an impossible assignment. Now your personality will let you forget - or at least make it appear as 'normal' - that the result of all this interpreting leads you nowhere, other than to an unpleasant experience or feeling better than other people.

You have learned to be a good listener and perceiver, and give as many aspects of what someone says, a meaning. What is said and how it is expressed were to say something about you, whether it is expressed directly to you or not. When a stranger in a cafe says that he does not like the color purple and you have a purple couch, it is easy for you to experience this as a rejection (and it does not matter that you have learned to respond to this quickly by hiding this feeling or 'put it into perspective'). When someone does not like you, it were to say something about you. What your personality can use as the slightest insinuation will be used for interpretation. You have learned to see this as a preferred characteristic (a good listener needs half a word only), and seen from the perspective of your personality this is true, since it is a perfect way to strengthen and uphold this principle and thus strengthen his grip on your life.

However, it is your personal choice to make this principle true over and over again. You may have forgotten that you had a choice in the first place, for that this site can offer you a lot of inspiration to remember. You can perceive yourself and others involved as personalities who have to believe all the judgments and limitations you have taught yourselves and are stuck in endless repetition of it. Or you can free yourself and others of this, simply by stopping to believe in it and then open up to experience what will take the place of it. You need not dó anything to have this new experience, simply remind yourself in a specific situation that you believe it is possible to see this differently: remind yourself that you do not know what it really meant what was said, done, not done here, and ask your inner Self to inspire you.