Insecurity

It is already implied in the word: insecurity is about 'not being sure'. You find yourself in a situation where there is no guarantee that you will be able to make it into a success. And 'no success' is not seen as pleasant by your personality. Insecurity is the feeling which results from this interpretation.

Insecurity often starts with inexperience. You simply do not have the insight in how you would be able to turn a situation into a success for your personality, so with an outcome 'pleasant'. Not only in your teenage years you will find yourself facing insecurity, it continues with new jobs, new partners, your looks etc. Seen from the perspective of your personality, it is experience that can often offer the desired perspective, so it seems like a question of hanging in. In the meantime your personality is likely to attempt to hide your insecurity as much as possible (through certain behaviour, expressions, walking away etc.), diminish it (ask for help, attempt to control) or put it asleep (look for confirmation through others, lots of thinking).

As your life experience increases, you notice the insecurity remains in more or less situations. This is usually the case in those situations where your personality does not consider the results of his actions to be successful, or is very aware of the fact that results in the past do not guarantee future successes (or at least prevent unpleasant results from happening). It is not that he does not do his best and tries in many different ways, but it only so rarely seems to lead to an outcome which is pleasant enough, good or successful enough as a result. Being criticized on a regular basis by others is also a good way to remain insecure.

Your personality can never get guarantees that a situation will 'work out' according to his standards, simply because he cannot know in the first place what is best for everybody involved. Insecurity is about the appreciation your personality has for response and outcome in a certain situation and the great value he addresses to the outcome.

For your inner Self, a situation is neutral in itself, which automatically diverts the focus of your attention to the inspiration of your inner Self, and away from response and outcome. So when you find yourself in a situation where you feel insecure, simply ask your inner Self for inspiration, rather than your personality. Stop attempting to make your personalities' way a truth in itself. Inspiration from your inner Self always comes in the form of quiet and certain Knowledge. And since this is what you were looking for in the first place, there you have your desired 'shortcut'! Maybe nobody has told you that you have an inner Self which is much more pleasant to live your life by, however, this does not mean that it is not there already and can be a great source for very peaceful and familiar experiences.