Is that so?

This popular question is frequently used in an attempt to let you focus on the subject that you are talking about. You are likely to start to clarify things, give examples, justify etc. But you could also give a new interpretation to this question: is it really so? Is that what I am saying really the only truth. Or is it my personality that is trying to get its way and re-establish itself, and that I believed his input for a little while.

Let's illustrate this with an example. You are in the heat of a discussion where you try to convince the other person involved that it is really very important and normal that he should put his laundry in the basket. But is that so? Is it really true that whatever it is that you are telling him, and arguing about, is the ultimate truth? How can you know that? That is not an easy question to answer. It might help if you change the perspective. Why would you not convince yourself that it is indeed very important and useful that you learn to accept that this person does not put his laundry in the basket?

Do ask yourself that question. And become aware of the response of your personality. Because now you can listen to all the arguments why you should NOT do that. And that are the more or less hidden values, rules, etcetera that your personality has adopted as "your reality" and tries to re-establish time and time again. Anything that might convince you that this simply has to be true will be brought to mind: upbringing, social acceptance, every normal person does that, or whatever!

In this way you can help yourself to question what seemed to be your solid reality. None of the ways mentioned (or not mentioned) of looking at this situation is "right", the real solution can only be found in letting go of holding on to this kind of rules and justifications, thus making place for your inner Self.

Now won't it become chaotic when you do that? Have confidence, in yourself and others and the ultimate wisdom in each of us. You do not have to control the world, or judge it, or make sure that its rules are obeyed. Choose a new approach: let it go, thus freeing not only yourself, but also the other persons involved. Now simply wait for inspiration. Remember the famous words of this Beatles song:

Let it be, let it be, let it be oh let it be
There will be an answer, let it be.