Justify yourself

Your personality wants his worldview to be correct, not only for himself, but he also wants other people to share the image he has from himself. This makes the principle more reliable, and chances for unpleasant experiences decrease by it.

So when it appears that someone has an image of him that is not correct, your personality will want to correct this in the other person as soon as possible. This happens already in very subtle situations which may not seem like a direct attack at all. For example: someone says that still some things need to be done before this is really finished. Your personality then may rush in and announce that he already knew that and that it is on his to-do-list. They should not get the idea that you might have forgotten about it!

Now your personality also has to face more direct attacks. Like when someone says: this has gone wrong, for example. Or: you should have monitored that. Now to your personality this automatically implies that you are not as good as you should be in the eyes of the other person, which is very unpleasant to him. It may even be that you could not be held directly responsible because you yourself did not have to perform the task, and now you are looking bad because of someone else's omission.

The real question here is: what do you use to create a self-image. When you use the principles of your personality to do so, then you will find yourself going through life justifying yourself very regularly. This not only costs a lot of energy, it is not a perfect solution either, and it will always leave you with some feeling of dissatisfaction. Then why not explore the alternative? Your inner Self does not have a self image that needs to be defended or justified. Simply because it does not judge. So when someone suggests "failure" and "error", he or she suffers the consequences of his own judgments. Now you have a choice: you can either strengthen the other person (and yourself) in this belief by joining it. Or, your can make the choice for the both of you to recognize that judgment in itself has neither strength nor value. The fact that something is about to happen or change is one, that someone needs a reason why this is going to happen by interpreting the past and labeling it with a judgment, is pure personality stuff.

The choice is up to you, time and time again: personality or inner Self. And remember, this choice will become easier the more you practice it.