Keeping your appointments

There are all kinds of appointments. You can agree to meet, or to do something, but it can also apply to a law or a standard or rule, be it that these last ones usually are made without your personal consent. Keeping your appointments is usually highly appreciated in this society. So it is a great source for your personality to deal with: keeping an appointment, following the law etc.: you are good, nót doing so: you are more or less wrong.

Your personality now has all kinds of possibilities. As you can be very upset while keeping maximum speed. You can be very irritated when your visitors arrive too late. You may find it weird when someone points at the law when you forget to show direction once. On the other hand, he can use it to make you feel good when you do meet the speed limits, and even better when someone else fails to live up to them and "thus" is wrong. And when you are arriving too late, you always have a good explanation for that and expect some form of acceptance. And hey, everybody forgets to show direction in the car every now and then, and there was nobody behind you anyway. So you see, the simple fact that a standard or appointment is made is one, the creative things that your personality does with them is a different one (preferably resulting in the fact that you are good, and the other persons are less good).

There is a great variety in ways to interpret what happens. And this immediately brings you to the source of this: everything with regard to appointments are interpretations. About the validity of the standard to this situation. Whether or not you will feel good when you follow it. The penalties that are set on not meeting it. About what it was exactly that the appointment was about. Whether or not it was realistic. Where the margins are. Etc. Your personality could almost deal with this all day.

There will be a guarantee for trouble when two standards are valid to you at the same time, yet do not match with each other. Like: your parents believe that you should eat with fork and knife, and your friends think that is ridiculous. Now you are at the dinner table together with your friends and parents. Stress guaranteed, as this is a situation that can never really work for you.

The alternative is to become aware of the ways in which your personality deals with the issues of appointments, who in themselves are neutral. You can learn to let go of the grip your personality holds on these issues, and let your actions emerge from your inner Self (you may also want to read the column on standards and values). Your inner Self is not about nót keeping appointments, it does stand, however, for being free of all the interpretations that accompanied it. You no longer use appointments as a way to control, judge, feel good about yourself or guilty, blaming others, etc.