When you actually like having problems

Be not surprised to find out that your personality secretly loves to have some problems. Although a problem socially seen is often labeled as a negative issue, having a problem does bring certain practical advantages to your personality:

At first, for everybody it is logical and can be clearly recognized that the present situation is nót optimal, it has already been determined as such. Now this difficult part has been passed and the personalities involved are no (longer) attacked for their part in it, the present situation can be covered with a sauce of perspective that things can be 'solved', and so there is an outlook on an outcome of 'nice' and 'good' as so highly valued by personalities.

Now your personality can assign to himself a quite heroic role as savior in dark times, without chances of being attacked for it. He can now start investigating, try, plan, coordinate, list etc. so he can use all kinds of very pleasant personality tools. For him, this is a nice phase where he himself gets optimal attention and can experience a great amount of 'safety', simply because he is not yet accountable for things, since everything is still on the move. There is likely to be the occasional sigh about the amount of extra work, however, this usually cannot beat the advantages this situation offers for your personality. And the outlook is fine as well, since there is hope that something is going to be 'solved', and your personality expects to receive an amount of credit for his share, which is fine for him as well.

Then the moment comes where the situation actually will be solved. From that moment on, things should have to be 'nice' and 'good', however, chances increase that things will not be as great as they were supposed to be, and so the vulnerability of your personality increases. Also, all these nice personality tools can no longer be used intensively, and you now no longer have to máke things right but kéép things right, and this can only go more or less wrong usually, so your personality does not like this phase very much.

This is why you usually lose your interest as soon as the solution becomes visible or is realized. Next time you find yourself in a situation like that, review the process you went through and attempt to recognize the abovementioned personality tools and issues. Look at all the energy your personality has put into this, the thoughts, his commitment and all the things he went through to get there, and how soon he wants to leave as soon as things are realized, only to reapply the same mechanism in a different situation once again. Dare to recognize these experiences within yourself, slip under the social layer which says that you should believe problems are unpleasant. See how your personality attaches himself to the issue in a way he believes offers great opportunities to bring you pleasant experiences and avoid unpleasant ones.

Of course there are also personalities (or moments within yourself) who oppose certain situations, and insist everything stick to the old, because they do not like the problem phase and interpret this as especially vulnerable because of the uncertainty of a good outcome. These personalities are likely to mention that everything was better in the old days, all those problems did not occur, therefore the others are wrong, and so they have made their own worldview 'right' again, be it because they will 'solve' what the others have come up with which cannot work and so they can only do it better.

So every angle your personality takes on a situation always comes down to the same: make it pleasant according to his standards and values, avoid or prevent unpleasantness from happening. Your inner Self does not think in problems, solutions, safety and vulnerability. So consider to invite your inner Self in situations like this as well, as an extra dimension through which you now also use the situation for increasing awareness on the role of your personality and your inner Self ánd to make more mental space available for your inner Self in your experiences. Of course it is practical to know what it is that you are letting go, so that the next time you will not have to repeat your belief in it with the same intensity, therefore take a closer look at the role of your personality as well.