Considerable limitation through your self image

Your personality is not likely to have you examine the idea that you might limit yourself and others tremendously through the self image he creates. Since he is heavily involved in having others recognize this self image and have them reconfirm it, and hide everything that does not meet this desired image. And it is only logical now that he hides from your awareness this were to limit the other person to a reaction mechanism only which preferably only shows reactions which are to your personalities liking.

In this way your personality attempts to have the other person focus on your (desired) personality characteristics, and expects an interaction which should be 'nice', and does not make any space available for contact with other aspects. You usually are quite surprised when you find out that others have a picture from you which differs from the one your personality believes he is creating. You yourself are so actively involved in upholding this self image and checking whether what you are doing and showing is in line with it, that you do not allow yourself any space for awareness of other aspects as well.

So in this way you hold each other prisoner in this personality game. However, it is up to you to consciously decide to free the other person from having to contribute to upholding your self image. Thus you allow the vicious circle to be broken. This will no doubt be experienced as more or less fearful, since this is about the very basis of your personality and he will no doubt respond to this with reactions like fear, the idea that you will be left all alone when you continue and such, however, these still are not truths in themselves.

Your personality is simply afraid that other people may think differently about him than the self image he so carefully built and maintained and which has become acceptable to you, and that their response would make you doubt hím. Remember that the alternative of your inner Self is always available, all you have to do is to decide that you want it, and do not want the offerings of your personality any longer.