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Or: what is the meaning in this situation. Many people do wrestle with this question. Quite some of it has been covered in the column 'the pitfall in useful activities'. But this particular variation could use a closer look. It is a question that is often posed when you or someone for whom you make this judgment, goes through what could be seen as a difficult phase in life. And difficult could be: loss of a loved one, illness, unemployment, loneliness, pain, divorce and such. When the unpleasant and/or passive aspects of life tend to become more prominent, this question is likely to surface sooner. Seen from the perspective of your personality, the meaning of life is often searched for in relationships with others, things you can achieve, feelings to experience, meaning something for someone etc. On the other hand, meaninglessness seems to have something to do with the absence of elements from which you can distract a meaning. However, these are all incidents, and a much more logical approach would simply be: either each and every persons life is meaningful, or nobodies life is. What your personality wants you to forget, is that introducing the question 'is this life meaningful' implies that there could be an answer to it. However, it is a question that asks for a judgment, and the only aspect in you that is capable of judgment is your personality, so the answer is bound to be dualistic: yes, only when ... or no, but ... And this will never lead to a satisfying conclusion. You can always choose how you want to experience something: seen through the eyes of your personality, or through your inner Self. Only your personality will come up with labels like meaningful and meaningless, your inner Self knows these labels do not really exist at all, they are invented by personalities and the question itself is unanswerable. Accept life and live it the way it comes to you, even when your personality cannot explain it all or find logic in it. But your personality did not make your life. So each situation can be used for the choice: personality or inner Self, which aspect do I want to strengthen through this. Also stop wishing for things to be different from what they are. Reliving the pain of your life is a choice you make yourself, you drag 'unresolved issues' from the past into the present only to relive them again. Often enough because you cannot understand or accept what happened, and hope that this endless series of reliving it, will somehow lead to some form of understanding or acceptance in the future. This is a way to uphold an idea like 'justified meaninglessness'. So begin to bring your awareness into NOW and stay there as much as possible. The past is over, the future is not yet. Be present in the Present and deal with what you find thére. | |||
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