Midlife crisis

At a certain moment it dawns in almost everybody's awareness that you cannot make life really work for you through your personality, and on top of that it turns out to be a very tiring mechanism because you have to repeat it endlessly in order to create feelings and to ensure that the often unpleasant experiences do not get out of hand. You also start to notice that patterns are being repeated. That things are not that pleasant and under your control to make them work for you as you believed beforehand. You are likely to experience 'is this all there is' feelings.

The age in which you will realize this is likely to be earlier than before, also because of the great amount of input you are faced with. And you will experience this, depending on the reaction patterns of your personality, as a mild unpleasant period, a midlife crisis, depression, huge feeling of senselessness or likewise feelings.

Your personality will attempt to come up with solutions for this in his own way. He is likely to have you search for things which in the past meant 'fun' for you or of which you believed they could be a source of fun. Like buying a motor bike. Travel to foreign countries. Get a divorce. Make life changes. Embrace a hobby. Change your job. Etc. Or protest against it with reactions like irritation. Or attempt to diminish the experience of the unpleasantness with pills, alcohol or such. You will notice none of these things holds out a real solution for you, however, with a bit of luck it will take quite a while before this becomes clear to you.

What you do not realize is, that it is your personality who creates these feelings himself in the first place, based on standards he adopted and which he uses for his judgements and interpretations. So a midlife crisis is nothing more than becoming aware that your standards cannot really come true. You then have a number of options: attempt to make them work for you anyway (see above), hide for yourself that you cannot make them work for you, introduce new standards, or becoming aware of the mechanism of your personality and realizing there is an alternative for this: your inner Self. And it is likely that you have never realized this last option to be a realistic one.

Use the unpleasantness you experience to become aware of the true source of your experiences. You may for example have a standard 'life should be dynamic and active'. However, this standard is not a truth in itself, and you start to realize you cannot truly realize it either. For your personality, letting go of this standard equals its opposite 'boring and unpleasant'. However, that is because he cannot know what is there to fill the space he leaves open when you let go of your investment in your personality. Which is your inner Self. And you will notice this is a much more pleasant, natural, logical and familiar experience which suits you naturally, than any experience your personality can come up with. The choice to do so then becomes easier as you practice it, because the experience itself is so very attractive for you because it offers you everything that you turned out to be really looking for. You will thus be willing to use more and more situations to practice this shift. Simply because you realize the ways of your personality are no longer what you want.

Your personality needs activity in order to create experiences, which is an ongoing process in which he has to repeat the same mechanism over and over again: perception > judgement/interpretation > feeling > hold on to or get rid of feeling. That is why you find yourself in an endless search for new input in order to create experiences. You experience your inner Self regardless of outer circumstances, and so you need 'do' nothing in order to experience it. Imagine the mental space and freedom this holds out to you! Become aware of these personality steps, which in itself will show you the meaninglessness of the mechanism itself, which ensures that you cannot continue to repeat it with full conviction, thus making a great start to let go of your investment in it altogether. On the site you will find an extensive amount of columns and services to inspire you on that.