Distrust

Distrust or being suspicious is about expectations. You judge it is likely that someone may not do what you expect him or her to do (or not do, perform, or such), and maybe even do something élse instead, ánd that the outcome will be unpleasant for you. When there would be no outlook on unpleasantness, you would not need distrust at all, since then the situation would meet the standard your personality so highly values: nice.

Distrust is based on former experiences in which there actually turned out to be a difference between your expectations and what really happened. Only when actually happens what you expected (or not), you know if your suspicion was 'justified' or not. And justified means here: you somehow knew that the other person would not do what you expected him or her to do, and that the outcome would be different and less pleasant for you. By introducing this personality tool, you expect to be able to prevent having to face later that it had been very easy for somebody else to make you look 'foolish', to pull your leg, or at least are now able to to state that you did not trust it in the first place, all in order to be able to decrease the intensity of your experience of the unpleasant outcome in relation to your own expectations in a 'justified' way, and still maintain an illusion of grip.

Distrust is aimed at preventing these unpleasant experiences or at least diminish them as much as possible. "Healthy distrust" is an invention of personalities which assumes that judgment is justified, and that your personality is the factor which shapes your life. It is a justification of the mechanism of judgment. For your personality, not judging in this sense equals somewhat naivety, where his judgments from the past, which he wants to project onto the present, are not honored, and which on top of that, makes him vulnerable.

When your goal is to make life 'nice', you can use distrust in order to attempt the opposite from happening. When your goal is to let go of the mechanisms of your personality and become more aware of your inner Self, it does not matter in itself what happens, and you automatically do not need judgments - and no distrust either - and you can allow yourself to let go and ask for inspiration of your inner Self, which is also the level where you are not completely separated from others. And you will find that when you allow yourself to practice this, it is likely you will find it is less terrible than you expected what really happens when you let go of your investment in your personality in a situation like this. Consciously perceive what happens within the steps of the mechanism: perception > judgment/interpreting > feeling > attempting to get rid of the feeling, in order to get a good picture of the idea of suspicion. And it all starts with your own expectations which you project on the other person!