What do you use your quiet time for?

When there are moments on a day where you have some time to your self, what is it that you use it for, what do you think about? It is good to become aware of your mental activities, since chances are that you spend a great part of this time on what I would call personality-restoration-time. This means: mentally going through all things that you have done that day and are likely to experience, judging whether it was right or not, and when it was not too well, justifying yourself wherever possible. Thus you try to diminish or avoid the tensions that are a result of these interpretations, having to try to make things acceptable and/or safe afterwards, etc. This may or may not be done while you find yourself in a situation where your personality feels comfortable, like a warm bath, lazy chair or such.

Be not surprised that you are doing this, this is normal behaviour for personalities, since its main focus is to create a pleasant worldview for you. An example: you can use a walk in the woods to really let go of your personalities mental activity and be in the moment, however, you can use it as easily for great mental activities on personality-restoration-issues and thus still be intensively involved with your personalities points of view.

You will find that personality-restoration-moments will be likely to occur when you set aside some time to do something for yourself, which usually means: do something your personality likes, and preferably not be disturbed ánd be supported by others 'because you deserve or need it'. It will not go unnoticed now that this too has the familiar air of personality activity, one through which you now are able to suppress a series of unpleasant experiences in favour of these new ones with a better outlook on being pleasant and successful.

Become aware that you are doing this. Your personality usually is the first to state that there is no time for him to spend on exploring different worldviews than his own (read: remembering how you can dismantle him), however, you could use these moments especially to explore the mechanisms of your personality rather than endlessly mentally repeating them while hoping that another outcome were somehow possible. Become aware and let go, time and time again. Do not exaggerate, these moments to yourself are also a kind of safe haven to your personality, and it is not recommended to deprive him of these at once. Be creative and do use the time your personality tells you is necessary to yourself to use it for increasing awareness of your Self.