Money

Your personality usually has a strong bond with money, to him it is a way to express importance on one hand, and the ability to meet needs he introduced in the first place on the other hand. Money is something which tends to become 'more' in your life, and thus keeps up with the development of your personality, who gladly adopts it as a mechanism to measure his self worth and feeling better than others. And even though the exact financial status of an individual is about one of the best kept secrets in the world (at least in Holland), it is an excellent personality mechanism for measuring himself against others. He also uses it to create expectations, for example about the way he should be treated.

This way of creating and upholding a self image and acceptance is a huge force behind all kinds of situations, from buying a house, clothing, car, interior, to change of job, traveling, social contacts etc. Think for yourself how often you have spent more than you planned, or more than you could afford, and what your true personality motives were at that moment (and I do not mean the fancy argumentation you have taught yourself to come up with ;-) ).
Personality goals roughly aim at the desired outcome: feeling more than others, being part of something, make it work anyway (when you have absolutely nothing), or be generous (when you have plenty). You usually do not question why it is that you would need an outcome like that to create a self image.

When you do something for others, this usually is so closely related to getting money for it, that in principle your personality believes it is ridiculous to nót get any money for it. No money, no effort. The other way around can be inconvenient to him as well, when someone does not ask any money for something he did for you, it seems like you owe this person something which you cannot compensate immediately, and that is always an unpleasant situation for him.

Situations to practice Awareness with regard to money are plenty, like when you lose money at the stock exchange or while gambling, when you do not have money to buy something or to do what your personality has labeled as pleasant or desirable, through all kinds of situations your financial backup decreases rapidly, you do not get a raise, you are in a situation where others make (much) more money and possess much more than you, etc. Since your personality has so identified with 'having' and 'more', it automatically means that 'losing' and 'less' are seen as weakening your personality and his self image, and this usually is not something your personality wants to show other people. Neither does he want to face that a certain need or desire which he introduced in the first place, cannot be met because there is no money (which he is likely to see as a personal failure). Usually you will notice that you are not willing to recognize this, and try to hide it for others. And you no doubt know from experience how creative you can become in changing your reasoning from not being able to to not wanting to, or not needing it, hide it altogether (especially for yourself as well), not wanting to admit it, or likewise.

You could imagine the enormous freedom you will experience once you let go of your personality control with regard to money, in all the situations described above. It will mean a tremendous amount of mental activity no longer needed to uphold all that, and so: mental space available for your inner Self to fill, which will make it extra pleasant because now you will experience inner Peace in all those situations, regardless of the financial aspects. Your personality is likely to state that when he does not interfere, you will not have any, or at least not enough money, thus trying to assign the cause of it all to him again - which simply is not true in itself -. The way to deal with this is, just like all other situations: become aware of your true personality goals rather than listening to its fast and smooth reasoning or follow his hiding attempts. What you will experience then, will automatically make you aware that this is not what you really want, thus enabling yourself to let it go altogether (you will not let go something you believe is of value to you). When you then do not fill the mental space with other personality stuff, you will have more mental space available for your inner Self, and be able to keep it that way.