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Normal personality reactions on this process
Each step forward you make with regard to Awareness, your personality will label as 'danger'. To him, this process is not different from any other situation where he is threatened to lose his grip on what he calls your life. That is why a great deal of confidence is needed to be able to face the mechanism where about each step forward you make, will be followed by a counteraction from your personality, and then still choose to go on. Especially after a while you will notice that the attractiveness
of experiencing your personality will stimulate you to continue. And be confident that while your personalities strength will decrease, these effects too will be less pronounced and unpleasant to deal with, even though the mechanism itself will stay in action for quite a while. There is a great variety in reactions, for example:
- irritation about nothing
- anger
- not wanting to do daily things
- become fearful or panicking
- cry
- withdraw
- look for support
- bodily issues
- reasoning why this cannot work
- etc.
And your personality is eager to state that becáuse you experience these reactions, the process of awareness is not right and does not bring you what you were looking for. A great example of upside-down reasoning, a specialty from
your personality!
When you see it put like this, this is hardly an attractive advertisement to start with this process of awareness in the first place. On the other hand, you face these reactions many times during the day in all kinds of situations your personality cannot make work for you, so they are not that unfamiliar in the first place. Only this time you use them for a structural process of increasing Awareness, rather than endlessly repeating
the same reaction patterns over and over again. So actually it is a matter of being brave and understand that you can move through it and see it for what it is: a reaction mechanism only, with no power in itself.
So now you can change the use you make of these reactions: where you used to experience this unpleasantness and tried to get rid of them, you can now use them to become aware of the mechanisms of your personality and simply let them happen as long as your personality believes he should do so, meanwhile perceiving what happens, understanding the mechanism, and realizing you have a choice.
Should you choose to nót listen to your personality, then he is likely to increase the intensity of his reactions in order to have you focus on him again, to him that choice only triggers the mechanism that he obviously needs to speak louder in order to get your attention. When you do listen to your personality and at the same time choose to not make it true for yourself, then you will notice that this will naturally decrease in strength.
Your personality is heard, that's all.
Can you force a breakthrough? It all starts with the personality idea which labeled the situation you were in (Awareness) as 'danger', since there IS no danger in the first place. On the contrary, you are on the right way. Still you notice that your personality tries every trick in the book in order to get your attention back to him. Resistance within yourself is unpleasant. Here are a few personality options to deal with that:
- surrender to it, this may help you to get rid of the tension, however more often it will cause new issues to arise
- be strong for a while and resist (for example when you are dieting or going through a hard time), this looks much like repressing and change, rather than facing
- hide, this is a sure way to stay in trouble
- try to prevent: you uphold the mechanism, however try to avoid input
- distract, this too does not really solve anything, however takes away the intensity of your interpretations for a while.
To make a long story short: the true solution can be found in truly facing what is the real cause and mechanisms of your personality, this will take away the need to uphold the interpretation mechanism.
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