When someone else gets what you believe is (also) rightfully yours

You will no doubt have had to face the following situation: somebody gave something to somebody else which you believed should be given to you, or which did not seem fair in the sharing process (legacies are famous for this, but also raises in salary and bonuses are excellent providers of this kind of experiences).

You can now experience in full that your personality blames the person who seems to not give you what you believe you are entitled to, and that he somehow expresses this - directly or indirectly. To start with, you can become consciously aware that you are doing this, and stop investing energy in repeating the pattern, where necessary you can even help yourself by actively forgiving this person for what your personality believes he has done to you.

Something that you may not be immediately aware of, is that you also blame the person at the receiving end for accepting what the other person has offered him. When the giver did not give it to you, then the other person could have refused it as well, since to your personality that would have helped to make the situation less painful than it is now, since now he has to face that he himself somehow is the weaker one, especially when compared to this receiving person. And when the other person does not refuse what is offered, then your personality has one last refuge: attempt to make the other person feel guilty or likewise - for example state that you do not wánt what it is that is offered here - so that the others involved do not have the fun which your personality expected for himself in the first place.

So do not forget in this kind of situations to also look at the second part, and use it for the same process of awareness as the first part. Facing this is in itself the essence of the work that has to be done, normally your personality tries to ban this process from your awareness as much as possible and have you react to the unpleasant outcome only and try to get rid of that. Also, you may actively involve your inner Self to shape your experiences in new ways.