Your personality does nót care for your best interests

Your personality is a result from the thought that you might want to be something élse than your Self (see other columns), and so it is everything bút your Self. The goal of your personality is, to maintain itself. And because of this, it is very obvious that your personality is not as committed 'for' you as you may have believed from an early age on. On the contrary, actually he is simply against.

However, since in the process of creating your personality the idea has been introduced that he means well for you (read: himself), and you have forgotten the alternative of your inner Self almost completely, you are likely to find yourself honoring his suggestions, forget what he wants you to forget about how things really work, etc., since you would not do yourself ....

That is why it may come as a surprise to realize that your personality does nót function in the best interest of yourself (being your Self), and only has his own interests in mind - which is a thorough forgetting of who you really Are, and keeping things that way. Should these interests be in any danger, then he has a wide variety of thoughts, projections, tensions and bodily issues to choose from in order to call your attention back to his focus, thus stopping you even before you could get really started. So the basis of your unpleasant experiences actually can be found within yourself.

Your personalities interests can be endangered through and experience of your inner Self, but for example also when your experiences in general become too pleasant, since for your personality there is much more to do, and a much more interesting role to fulfill when you find yourself in trouble than when things are being nice. (For example, you will notice your personality insisting on repeating patterns he knows are not in your favour, and yet can be covered with a thin layer of pleasantness, like eating, smoking, drinking or such. Attracted by the immense short experience of 'nice', however, most of your attention will be used before and after for the aspects of 'wrong' which accompany it.)

When you truly realize your personality does nót work in your best interests, this can be used as an extra motivation to ask yourself what it is that you are doing when you áre listening to him and choose to strengthen him. You can practice this very practically: this need to eat/smoke/watch tv is not in my interest but in the interest of my personality. This need to be right/do something nice/bodily issue/unpleasant feeling is not in my interest but in the interest of my personality.

It is understanding these patterns which will decrease the grip they have on your life, since a pattern which obviously does not serve you, you will not keep on repeating. It can exist because you do believe it brings you something, that it is there to serve you, and so you have to start noticing this is not true.

At the same time, do realize that your personality is not an enemy (see also separate column), this is not about opposing your personality (this will only lead to stress within yourself), it is about no longer investing energy in it simply through your increased understanding, through which it cannot but decrease in power and your inner Self can now fill the space you thus make available. Do not force this process on yourself either, find the pace which suits you well and stay with it, when you move too fast, this too will only lead to resistance.