Not feeling strengthened

It is likely to happen to you many times during the day: you do not feel strengthened. You say something to another person, and this other person does not understand. Or gets you wrong. Or does not react to it in the way you expected or hoped. Does not agree. Attacks you for it. This results in an unpleasant experience, since your personality had expressed himself or did nót do something in the assumption that the other person would strengthen him in this, and now this turns out not to be the case.

Results? You do nót feel strengthened, which is the same as feeling weakened in a situation, which is an unpleasant feeling with which you deal of course in the standard ways of your personality. Irritation is popular here as one of the mildest forms of the unpleasant experience. Impatience as well, in order to have the unpleasant moment last as brief as possible. Furthermore, your personality will attempt, either out loud or in your thoughts, to blame the óther person and attempt to change him and have them support your story or gesture anyway, or at least justify your own side. If this is out of the question, you are likely to attempt to hide the feeling from your awareness. And in future situations you are likely to think twice before you even decide to speak up for yourself and how, so as to not bring yourself into difficulties when not necessary.

Realizing what the true goal was your personality attempted to reach in the first place is a fine way to use this for your process of increasing awareness. Be not surprised to find it rather embarrassing to face, this is exactly why you will then decide to no longer repeat it. Since you simply attempted to bluntly be right and have confirmed by the other person that you had done something right or seen or did not do. Be not surprised either to find your personality has quite a lot of justifications for his point of view: he is right, and there are many arguments to establish this. And yet, when you take a closer look at these as well, you will find that these as well aim only at avoiding unpleasant experiences for your personality and establish pleasant ones where possible. Now do not substitute this with a new personality approach and once again you have taken another step towards making more mental space available for your inner Self.

And when you find it difficult to see this in your own life: simply be consciously aware during the conversations you have each day with your spouse, friends and relatives: you will no doubt find many examples on how you felt not strengthened and how you attempt to heal your wounds through the comfort of these people who welcome you anyway.