When things do not go the way you want

When things do not go the way you want. When you have to do things you do not want to do. When other people do not react well to your input. When people do not cooperate. When you are in a hurry. When other people criticize you. When there is an argument. When ... well, you may come up with dozens of possible situations here yourself. Now when you find yourself in one of those situations once again, then ask yourself the following questions:

- which aspect in me determines how the situation should have been in the first place
- what does the dissatisfaction that follows from this, bring me
- what choice do I have
- why do I not act out this other choice

Then in itself, it is very simple. Something turns out to be better or worse than anticipated by your personality, and you experience feelings as a result of this. In itself, everything is neutral. It is only the interests from your personality in upholding itself and his being attached to his interpretation of something, that makes it hard to face this. However, when you ask yourself these questions, you introduce doubt with regard to this automatism. And you become more aware of the underlying motives of your personality. This is only about becoming aware of the answers your personality will come up with, you need not interpret these, or judge them, since that would only mean that you use them for a new round of personality involvement. By the way, you will find that the answers will always be pretty much the same: your personality, it does not bring you anything, only unpleasant experiences, your alternative choice is your inner Self and you do not want to act out that choice because your personality believes that he is right. And still, you will find yourself practicing this over and over again in all kinds of different situations, facing this plain truth you now come up with yourself, before you are willing to really accept this.

And when it seems that you get "stuck" in a situation, you may add to these questions this one: which personality judgment do I preserve here.