When someone asks you to do something you do not want to do

It no doubt happens regularly: somebody asks you to do something which you actually do not want to do, however, you feel for some reason that you cannot say no to this request. So in the end you will do it anyway, only to find yourself stuck with the idea that because of this you 'cannot be yourself'. Is that really true? Which 'self' are you talking about here?

Not wanting to do a certain task is a judgment, based on preferences of your personality, and judged as well against what he believes he can do good and is not too good at in order to have an outcome 'nice'. Not to mention the fact that when someone asks you to do something you do not want to do, and you end up doing it anyway, your personality automatically sees himself as weakened or less than the other person (regardless whether or not you can make a smart move and turn this into a more acceptable idea like pleasing the other person and such). No doubt that you will more or less subtle make the other person notice that you do this against your will. Now because of all this, your personality declares that he cannot be himself, which means: he cannot do those things he has labeled as 'nice' (or at a moment in time to his liking). However, this is something different than being your Self.

To your inner Self it does not matter what it is that you are doing, since he does not judge. So you can be your Self in any situation. The only thing you really have to do in a situation like this, is ask your inner Self: what is it that you want me to do here. And the rest which follows from there is no doubt a great exercise in awareness of the mechanisms of your personality through consciously facing what it is that he is bringing into the situation from the moment where you say no, or simply do what is asked. Or you will use it to experience the situation mainly through your inner Self.

The same applies of course for all kinds of likewise situations like: somebody asks you to nót do something that you want to do, or does not give you what you believe you want to have, or does not do what you wanted him or her to do, etc.