How many people attended your party?

Even the phenomena of parties is embraced by your personality in order to create all kinds of issues through it. To begin with, the word 'party' seems to contain the promise of: nice, fun, get wild, drink (a lot), eat (nice) and pleasant company. So it holds out the prospect of being able to score well in the category 'nice' which is so highly valued by your personality.

Practice usually differs from this. And I do not even refer to the party itself, I even do not talk about that (even though you are free to be honest to yourself about how often a party really was as much fun as your personality wanted you to believe, and was it really that good to repeat that story about your holiday or new car over and over again, the embarrassing moments when you found yourself alone (or with your partner) standing or eating, the seemingly pleasant groups of people who know each other and with which you could not mingle, the music being so loud that any contact became almost impossible - and how empty it made you feel, the way in which you pretended to have a good time since it is a party and you should be able to háve one - there must be something wrong with you - etc.). However, it is about the things your personality thinks about the phenomena of a party itself.

Do you recognize several of the following sayings: nice, the whole place was crowded with people; it is likely there will be up to forty people; I only have invited a few good friends; yes, but their family alone can fill a party in itself; Jean, Paul and Carry could not come. You are likely to notice that one of the important personality basics for judging a party is: the amount of visitors. This seems to be a factor for success for both the host and the visitors. The number of visitors now has become more important to personalities than for example the quality of the contacts (and this without any relation to the number of visitors you have actually spoken, and what you have taken with you from that contact).

This also sets the tone for judging the next party of yourself or others: less visitors now almost automatically has become 'wrong' and the other way around, the self image of the person with the successful party now has been boosted, the one of the person who faced a less than expected number of visitors is likely to be busted.

In future, no longer use parties to uphold the illusion they are great fun and nothing else, and let all embarrassing expectations, judgments and accompanying personality feelings before, during and after the party come into your awareness. Thus you enable yourself to really deal with them: facing them and let go of your investment in them, without replacing them with something else. A party is neither right nor wrong in itself, it simply cannot bring you something you really value and this you will become aware of, and your investments in the phenomena itself thus decrease. And numbers also have no meaning in themselves. All this will ultimately bring you to the point where you can attend a party and experience it the whole time through your inner Self, now that is a réal party!

By the way, this personality focus on numbers is more widely spread than parties alone: think about numbers of Christmas cards, how many times you do certain things with your partner, how much you earn etc., all things your personality wants you to believe mean anything in themselves and therefore are a source of inspiration for him to enlarge, control, compare, arrange, worry about etc.