The only thing that happens is an increasing inner Peace

Throughout your life, your personality has created a huge range of reaction patterns and defence mechanisms in order to be able to move through life in a way that is as successful as possible for him. Not meeting these patterns to your personality equals calling on disaster for yourself, no wonder you will notice resistance against this within you. On top of that, he associates letting go or adjusting with personal weakness.

Each time you notice resistance within yourself, this means your personality insists that his way to look a the world, an event or a relationship, is true. This resistance can express itself of course in many different ways and in many different levels of intensity, that in itself is not interesting - any level will do, even the tiniest one;-).

The same process happens with regard to becoming aware of your inner Self, since this Awareness no longer strengthens your personality - however, it also does not attack him either, and that is where the essential difference can be found. Because other than the seemingly 'justified' defence mechanisms in relationships between personalities where indeed opposition, effects on self image etc. seem to play a meaningful part, this is not the case with regard to increasing Awareness of your inner Self. The 'only' thing that happens when you become more aware of your inner Self, is that you will experience an increasing feeling of inner Peace, without any opposition or judgment. However, your personality does not believe this, since he is not part of it, and because his experiences through his own belief system were different till then.

Your personality is likely to automatically label this for a while as a threat to himself and react to increasing Awareness as if his own needs are not met well. However, it is this insight, that 'nothing' happens except the increasing experience of inner Peace, regardless of the circumstances, that will ultimately have your personality see that his reaction is a mistake. It is somewhat like protesting heavily because you assume that something terrible is going to happen whereas what is really going on is that you are on your way to the greatest party on earth. Do not blame yourself for this, and take your time to develop trust in that nothing bad is going to happen to you. And when you can see the resistance of your personality in the proper perspective, you can also reassure yourself on those issues and thus dare to let go of your investment in it. Also, you can actively start looking for the answer to the question: what is that that my personality wants to continue to be true here? Rather than focusing on the reaction mechanism itself.