Peaceful contacts?

Your personality has a strong preference for peaceful contacts. Nice gatherings, interesting or pleasant conversations, not saying things that could irritate or annoy other people, and your face a pretty mask, will induce the idea of peacefulness in word, gesture and expression, thus strengthening the personality value 'nice'. Now this is a painted picture which usually has very little to do with your true personality feelings, but this is hidden from your awareness as much as possible during the contact itself, only to fully enter your mind again before or afterwards, since you now blame yourself for nót having been 'yourself' during this contact (where 'yourself' is seen as your personality and all its aspects).

A meeting (or moments in it) where issues are brought to the surface, where things are put straight, or likewise, are likely to be judged by your personality as unpleasant. Now it automatically does not meet the personality standard 'nice'. Chances to your personality that he will be attacked or will attack himself are actually 100 percent in this kind of meetings, and this usually is not a thing to look forward to because of the impact it will certainly have on its self image, and the inevitability of counter reactions which will in turn lead to new unpleasant interpretations-and-feelings-to-follow. After a contact like this you will no doubt experience guilt when you yourself have started the attack, and from other unpleasant feelings and the need to 'hit back' or withdraw when you were the subject of attack. Usually it is almost impossible to really label a conversation like this as 'a thing to learn from'.

On many occasions, awareness will not follow from attractive and pleasant pathways in your life, more often you will find it after periods of turmoil which seem necessary to convince a personality that something really needs to be done here. Sometimes you are the subject of this, sometimes you will offer it to others (and learn from this role as well yourself). In itself, there is nothing wrong with this, on the level of your inner Selves you know that it is right the way it is (even though the remains of your personality will attempt to make this hard to believe for you, and try to convince you that it must have been very wrong what you did).

Each contact is good the way it is, since it is neutral in itself, it is the personality issues in each of you that give it a specific meaning and thus have it judged and filled with expectations. What you offer each other, is the opportunity to use this moment in time and this contact to realize all this a bit more. The (assumed) peacefulness or turmoil which comes from this contact is the input with which each of the participants starts his part of the increasing awareness process, and maybe choose this time to no longer give it any meaning in itself.

Do not doubt the role you play in the lives of others, however, do not assume that only one type of role is wanted, namely the one where you make it very easy for the personality of the other to appreciate and like you: the funny, peaceful visitor/friend/family member/colleague/boss etc. Remember for yourself how often it has occurred in your own life that someone has made you really think which stemmed from a situation your personality certainly would not have labeled as pleasant. There is something else in you which dóes appreciate the questioning of any truth and assumption your personality has entertained up till now: your inner Self, since this allows him to enter the space that is made available in this process of letting go.

There are people for whom the process of awareness works best when their world is intensely shattered and they first have to find themselves in a huge mess, there are people who are excellent in creating situations like that, and these will no doubt find each other - even though their contact is likely to be limited in time, however, the effect need not be less valuable. And there are people who follow this process best when they are supported by others, and there are others who are good at supporting people in processes like this - these too are likely to attract each other. And there are all kinds of combinations and variations in between.