Can you avoid a personality reaction?

Often enough, afterwards you feel very unpleasant about the way things went when your personality interfered. Can you avoid a personality reaction - and should you have to want to do so?

Let's take the following example: somebody says something unpleasant to you. You now have two options: the first one is, to move through the familiar personality steps in order to 'have the other person pay for this', and then afterwards ask for the experience of the situation through your inner Self. This is a fine way to deal with a situation as long as your personality heavily invests in the issue at hand, and is likely to be your preferred way of reacting as long as your personality is still strong, so especially in the beginning. Your personality reacts towards something that he perceives and interprets first, believes he is right, and is ready immediately for counter-attack, for which he usurps your entire mental space, as he did before (notice all the discussions in your head why you are right and the other person isn't, and how you are going to take care that all others will see it the way you do!). At that moment, the thought of not following your personality, is insane, simply because of its prominent presence in your mental space.

Do not have the illusion that you would have to stop this. It is your awareness of how unpleasant it actually is when you act out your personalities ideas, which will help you to decrease your belief in the whole idea. Why would you open up to 'something else' when your personality still sees himself as successful? So simply become aware very thoroughly of what it is that really happens when your personality is acting his way out. You know by now that there is an alternative, and that your personality is not 'you', and with this kind of personality results you are likely to be willing to open up to the alternative more eagerly.

And there is the option to choose for experiencing the inspiration of your inner Self in the moment itself. This is more like a pro-active way of dealing with the situation, you set the goal of Awareness beforehand, and everything which follows from there will be seen in the light of that goal. You consciously make mental space available for your inner Self and you have the intention to continue to do so because of this commitment. This approach can be used for example in situations which you can plan ahead, like a visit or a meeting or likewise. This does not mean, however, that your personality will not interfere at all, however you will notice that the context in which he does so and the way in which it will be expressed, are differently. Of course you can try to choose this approach in the heat of the moment where your personality is acting profoundly, even for a moment, however do not be surprised to find this will not be very successful, especially in the beginning.

The one way in itself is not better than the other way, they both serve the same goal: Awareness. The first option does so by living through your personalities choice and truly see that it does not bring you anything you want, thus being prepared more eagerly to look for the alternative and see the situation in a different light afterwards. The other way is to immediately choose for your inner Self. The balance between these two options will change in time automatically, when your inner Self becomes stronger and your Awareness increases, you will be able to choose more frequently for your inner Self, even after your personality has made his first moves already.