Set your priorities right

An excellent step forward on your way to remembering who you really are: make it priority number one in your life. In every situation. Now it is likely your personality will argue that that is not possible: because you are paid to work, when the children are crying you simply have to do something, dinner will not cook itself, etc.

Nice try from your personality, but read on. What does it really mean to make it the highest priority in your life: you will still do all kinds of things, but the reason why you do them, and the intention with which you do them, changes.

For example when you go shopping. What are your normal priorities: e.g. you have to get all the groceries, maybe you give yourself a low-price goal to go with it, and you have to do it within a certain amount of time. Now you may already recognize that those goals are personality priorities, because they are judgments on things. Now what would your priority be when your inner Self would be number one? Then you would use the time you spend on your shopping to become more aware of your inner Self and/or the things you have made in order to prevent you from remembering that. In this situation your first step was becoming aware of the priorities of your personality here. And furthermore, the road to the shops, the irritations you are likely to experience along the way, the contacts with the people you meet, virtually everything offers you the possibility to repeat this choice: do I choose to make these irritations real by discussing them in my head and justify them for myself, or do I simply choose to not do that, thus making free the way for my inner Self. And you do not have to worry that there are not enough opportunities to practice this during the day!

Let's also take a closer look at another example: about work. What is your priority there: meeting the deadline or remembering your inner Self? In the role that you play at work, the deadline is one of the things that you have to deal with. But you do have a choice about the way in which you do that. Normally your personality will take ownership of the deadline as soon as it is set, and will put a lot of effort in checking and rechecking all the time whether you are going to meet that or not, and depending on the interpretation, will lead to feelings of stress, looking for "safety" to be able to justify yourself, etc. You could also use it to become more aware of these mechanisms, and decide to stop putting energy in it. You are then free to use it to make more room for your inner Self (and let yourself be surprised what that will bring you). The one-sided focus of your personality almost succeeded in making you believe that stress and control are necessary ingredients for achieving (because that is what he saw in others and from experience). But it is the opposite that is really true. Things will happen with a certain ease when you let go of your personality. But it takes a lot of courage to surrender to your inner Self and let go of the controlling aspects, and that is usually seen as a huge mountain to be overcome. And you do not get any "guarantee" that things will turn out "right", not in the least because "right" is a label, your personality puts on a situation.