Robbery - a different way to deal with it

It happened to my partner: he was about to put two bags in the back of the car, when two youngsters on a scooter passed by and took them away. Even as they entered a dead-end street and had to pass my husband for the second time, the only thing that he saw was a big grin on their faces.

Now there were two options: he could go for the standard personality approach, which included: feeling fearful, angry, powerless, anxiety etc. Or he could surrender it to his inner Self. He chose the last possibility, and his inner peace returned. He looked around in some streets nearby (as he assumed that the content of papers only would soon be recognized as uninteresting), before he went to the police station to inform them about what happened.

Meanwhile he called me, and I chose to consciously set some time apart, and mentally joined him in his choice for peace, quiet and trust. After a while I had the idea that some of his stuff was found, and I must admit that it surprised me that he came home without any. He remained peaceful and could almost see it as a neutral thing already.

The next morning we talked about the choice he had to make, today and the days to come: do I choose distrust, alertness, and things to prevent this from happening. What will I express when I talk about this event, would it be the remains of judgment that I have about it, or do I want this to be used as a living evidence that there is a different way to deal with it. That I can see the situation as neutral in itself, that it is my personal choice to use it to either add new judgments and reconfirm existing ones, and that my choice will affect others as well. He chose the last one, thus breaking the vicious circle that only one type of response were possible in these situations. This choice turned out to have some very pleasant side-effects for him: the big step forward he made here for his inner Self, gave him some very pleasant experiences in other areas of his life as well. His eyes had an intense glare for quite a while.

I know that he is going to maintain this attitude in the long run as well, we have moved through similar experiences before, like a burglary. At first his personality is likely to shout: "danger!", every time he hears a scooter passing by. And yet I am confident that he will make the right choice each time, one in which he chooses not to strengthen this idea. What about me? I have experienced it as neutral, a viewpoint that is rooted a.o. in my firm conviction that nothing happens in our lives that is not good for us, regardless of what it looks like on the outside.

He called me the next day one hour after he arrived there: someone in the area where it had happened, had found one of the bags. They were even delivered at his work by some community workers, and this confirmed the idea that my partner had too that at least some of his stuff would be returned. And in the midst of an office filled with wet paper hanging there to dry, he surprised his colleagues with the way in which he dealt with the situation.