Feeling sadness and anger

What kind of emotions are these? They are two "labels", so it is easy to determine its owner: your personality. Now what?

Sadness has to do with a feeling about something you believe has occurred to you, and has taken form of something unpleasant, loss, unkindness and likewise, including the impression that you cannot change the source of it. That brings about the victim in you. The nice aspects of that role for your personality are, that that is socially very accepted, and with a little willingness, it is easy to find a shoulder to cry on, one who agrees with you and justifies your feelings.

It is less likely to get applause for your expressions of anger. Anger is a response of your personality on situations where things do not tend to go as planned or expected, and others can be found to blame for that. The situation at hand just is not to the liking of your personality, he is not in control, and will try all kinds of things to change that. Because this is a more obvious sign of powerlessness (and we do not want to be reminded of that), expressions like that are likely to be labeled as an unwanted emotion.

Feelings can only be experienced NOW, because you label a PRESENT situation in a certain way. It does not matter whether it is a familiar one like hating every person that somehow resembles your neighbor. Feelings can be re-established by re-enacting a situation from the past in your mind, reliving it, thus allowing the feelings to be felt again NOW, based on the input from the past.

Most feelings are not very pleasant to be experienced, and your personality has become very creative in ways to hide those from you: directly, or numb them, loudly draw your attention to something else, distract you etc. Various ways to deal with this can be found in the column actively choose another approach.

If you want to experience the inner peace that comes with remembering your inner Self, it is wise to stop labeling others or situations, whether it is "wrong" or any other label, and no longer just want everything to go your way. And because your personality simply cannot make this work, you will have to start looking for your inner Self in order to make this shift.