Safety

Your personality is always looking for some kind of safety. Feeling safe has something to do with the overall acceptance of your personality: that he has made an acceptable life for you. You may for example believe that you cannot be of will be attacked, physically and/or mentally. But also that you feel accepted for who you are. Also the feeling that you are in control of situations contributes to it. And there will no doubt be a lot of other aspects that all have one thing in common: prevent unpleasant feelings.

And yet, because it is your personality that has labeled safety as a "wanted experience", the feeling will always in some way be influenced by circumstances and presence or absence of people. Also, you do know that this will never work a hundred percent, sooner or later some of the things that will make you feel unsafe simply will happen.

Feelings of unsafety will lead to a lot of activity in your head. Feelings like fear, anger, powerlessness, overwhelmed will be brought to your awareness. The situations that seem to cause it are lived through time and time again, you talk about them with others, look at them from different angles, try the what-if approach ... how could this have happened, etc, as long as is necessary to establish some form of safety again: by believing that you understand what happened, understand how to prevent it from happening again, how to deal with it (may be as simple as fight or run away). In this way you have made a vicious circle of creating situations, labeling them "safe, and relabelling them "wanted".

What is the alternative? Become aware that it is a vicious circle, but one you can learn to break. By becoming aware of it. It is not "true", it is an interpretation of a situation and the presence or absence of the preferred labels. it is about judgment on people who seem to have created this situation by their activities or neglectance. It is the powerlessness in a world of which your personality hoped he could control.

A situation is neutral in itself. Even if half of the world has the same interpretation about it. Be prepared to accept "that what is", even if the interpretation of your personality screams otherwise, because that does not make it a truth in itself. Letting go through awareness is an active start to break the cycle in which we hold each others personalities prisoner.

The absence of judgment brings you to your inner Self, and that is the place and the ultimate feeling that you are really looking for (and others with you). It is a feeling that is not dependent on situations outside of you. If you strengthen it in yourself, you make it easier accessible for others, simply because you do not pay attention to their personalities and thus make it easier for them to do the same.