Self confidence e.g. a strong personality

When applied to your personality, self confidence is about trust in the ideas, self image and way of thinking of your personality, compared to those of others. What mechanism is prominent here?

Your personality adopts ideas, standards, values, knowledge etc., and states that when the one is true, the other THUS isn't. Money is good, SO no money is wrong. Someone suggest a change in a situation SO the old situation is wrong. This mechanism always creates some form of tension, within yourself or in others.

Now in any situation with other people where this is at hand, you roughly have two possibilities to choose between:

believe what the other person says. This automatically means that the original idea from your personality THUS is wrong, which causes tension within yourself, and now you have to get rid of that.
reject what the other person is telling. Thus you can uphold your original interpretation, and the tension which will result from this situation now almost completely lies with the other person, who then has to try to get rid of it.

A person who can easily and often reject others, is called someone who is self confident or has a strong personality. It seems attractive, since it is a situation which results in the least of tension for yourself. Your success even increases when you can make your ideas easily acceptable to others. However, plainly seen like this, it can hardly be labeled as an attractive goal to strive for (as is with any personality goal, once you take a closer look at it).

Within the mechanism as described above, situations like this will always somehow cause tension. Now when you definitely want to get rid of this, you have to let go of the mechanism of judgment completely. This is at the basis of your personality. This column is about self confidence. But you can will to change this in Self confidence, trusting your inner Self. Functioning inspired within the moment itself. Opening the windows to the inner Self of other people, rather than upholding and thus strengthening the idea of separate personalities.